The Importance of Name Selection for Twins and Other Multiple Order Births
New moms and dads have a lot to keep them busy as they ready themselves for their baby (or babies as the case may be). A big part of the preparation is finding the right name. The name will be the first thing people learn about your child as he or she encounters the world, so it is important to make it something you and your child will be happy with. The wrong name may feel like a black mark that the child will have to carry forever. The need to get it right has led to countless books and internet sites to help sort through the options.
Mom and dad might have a favorite name or two off the bat, and if they are lucky they will agree and be done with the discussion. For many others it isn’t so easy. It may become clear early on that they have very different taste in baby names, so the search begins for that ONE name that they both can be happy with. Into the mix go the opinions of grandparents-to-be, best friends, and strangers on the internet who have strong opinions about the names being proposed. There are websites to tell you the meaning of every name you are considering too. This could be helpful except if you have a name that you absolutely love and you find out that the meaning of that name is “loser.” Now you have to start all over again.
My husband and I knew that we were expecting two girls and a boy, which at least helped to organize our name conversations to some extent. We had picked a few names during the pregnancy, but then as time and discussions went on we would change our minds. Finally we had 3 names that we were both at least partially satisfied with and I decided to just lock it in. I didn’t want to waste anymore brain activity on the matter. Of course the day of the birth I started to think about it again, just to be sure we weren’t making a mistake. But we stuck with the plan and I am glad we did.
Now that my triplets are 8 months old, I am very happy with the names we chose. Once in a while I come across a name that I like and I wonder if maybe I would have liked that better. But when I try to picture my baby with the new name, even if it is a great one, it just won’t fit. Their names are now a fixed part of their identities for me. It’s like they were born with their names printed on the bottom of their feet so I would know what to call them. To change their names now would be like changing their faces. I’m sure this would have been the case no matter which names we had selected, but the fact that we chose the names especially for each baby is what makes them perfect.
I apologize if this article didn’t lead you immediately to your perfect name choice. It would be great if it were that easy. But whatever you choose, you really can’t go wrong. You have a right to follow your heart and to ignore anybody who doesn’t agree with your choices. Love the name you choose and your child will learn to love his or her name as well. Then when your child is a good citizen that name will be come to provoke respect and admiration.